GRIEF
It was the custom of the Hebrews, as it still is in the East, to make a great display of mourning.
To express their grief over the death of a loved one, or over a public or private calamity, they beat their chests, covered their heads, fasted, sprinkled dust or ashes on their heads, neglected their hair, wore dull-colored dresses, tore their clothing, they dressed in sackcloth, etc.
For Asa and Zedekiah there was a great burning of perfumes at their death, most likely imitating the pagans (2 Chron. 16:14; Jer. 34 5).
Professional mourners were hired (Jer. 9:17, 18 cp. 2 Sam. 14:2; Am. 5:16).
Musicians who played funeral music also appeared (Mt. 9:23).
God does not want those who have lost a loved one to lack feelings: the Lord Jesus himself wept at the tomb of Lazarus.
But God wants there to be reality in all things. He himself must exhort his people: “Tear your hearts, and not your garments” (Joel 2:13).