Some Wisdom About Marriage
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. - Proverbs 18:21 (amp.)
A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. - Proverbs 25:11 (Amp.)
As you are about to embark upon your marriage, consider the following thoughts about this journey from the pen of Richard Exley and his wisdom.
Getting married is wonderful and also scary. A marriage may be made in heaven, but the maintenance must be done on earth. May you always consider each other first, before others.
Don’t destroy each other with words, especially in public. Words are very powerful, they can kill love faster than roses can mend it.
Always work toward the best for each other.
Never leave each other without a kiss or an “I love you.” Three little words, but they mean so much. Respect each other or the stars won’t come out at night. Even in a crowd always let each other know you are aware of them.
Romance is a fragile flower, and it cannot long survive where it is ignored or taken for granted. Without commitment and imagination, it will slowly wither and die. But for those who are committed to keeping romance in their marriage, the best is yet to come.
Marriage is what you make it. Under God, it must be the most important relationship in all your life. If your marriage is good, you can overcome anything—financial adversity, illness, rejection, anything.
If it is not good, there is not enough success in the world to fill the awful void. Remember, nothing, absolutely nothing, is more important than your marriage, so work at it with love and thoughtfulness all the days of your life.
Guard it against all intruders. Remember your vows. You have promised, before God and your families, to forsake all others and cleave only to each other. Never allow friends, or family, or work or anything else to come between you and your beloved.
Marriage is made of time, so schedule time together. Spend it wisely in deep sharing. Listen carefully and with understanding when he in turn shares his heart with you. Spend it wisely in fun—laugh and play together.
Go places and do things together. Spend it wisely in worship—pray together. Spend it wisely in touching—hold each other—be affectionate.1
How will you remember to follow these words in your marriage? It is something to think about.
H. Norman Wright
H. Norman Wright is a licensed Family Counselor and child therapist and has taught in the Grad. Department of Biola University. He is the author of more than seventy books
